Outlaws.. I mean InLaws

Ya know this deployment has gone by REALLY fast.  Maybe it’s because it was during the spring. Getting outta school, summer, school starting time. Who knows.  I do know this though. I am looking forward to spending time with my Marine when he gets home.  The last 3 emails he has sent to me he has said “don’t plan on doing anything or going anywhere for awhile when I get home! I plan on just being HOME!”

 Well I sure hope that means NOT going to visit HIS family either!  I swear at this point I could never hear from them again and be ok.  I have blogged about them before. And I know that is NOT Christ-like AT ALL to be mean or think bad thoughts about someone or many someone’s!  I know I shouldn’t feel like that but I do. You know my Marine and I have been together going on 19 years in November (YA that IS a LONG time!) I would think by now they would get the picture that I am here to STAY!  I have dealt with way too much crap from them.  This deployment is NO different EXCEPT they have not even contacted us, except by text 1 time.  My SIL text me to tell me that she was FINALLY going through the temple. and 1 message on my Marine's Facebook page. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Out of my Marine’s whole family (1 brother and 4 sisters) we (my Marine and I) are active and then 2 SILs. But I tell you what you live what you are exposed to.  My Inlaws are divorced and have been since my Marine was a teenager.  My BIL is married. My oldest SILwho is a member, just got divorced- we learned of that through the family blog they have. The 2^nd SIL (the one mentioned above) is the one who is almost 31  is active and just went through the temple, she’s NOT married.  The 3^rd SIL has been married and divorced and married again.  The 4^th SIL has been married and divorced, from the SAME GUY, and then they got married again.  Definitely NOT people that have their priorities straight.  They are SO totally different than MY family.  How I grew up.  It is NOT a situation that I was MY girls to be around.  Am I wrong by that? 

When my Marine deployed right after we got back here to CA, I went ABOVE and BEYOND and went to visit them time and time again.  Driving the 5 hours to see them. To make sure that my girls knew them and had a relationship with all of them. NOT 1 time did they EVER come to visit us. They ONLY time they have come out here is when my stepdaughter graduated from high school.  They did not come to see us, just her, and my older 2 girls realize it. 

I have blocked them from my Facebook page.. wrong?  Probably but it seems to me they just don’t care about US. I am tired of putting myself and my girls out there and being hurt OVER AND OVER again!  This deployment has been great. Spending time with MY family.  Traveling to Utah and just being US. Not having to worry about the ILs and making time for them. And it hasn’t seemed to bother them either.  Birthday’s have come and gone for my girls and not even so much as a phone call.  I get it 44 cents for a stamp to mail a Birthday card is TOO much! I just don’t get it.  This is how it has ALWAYS been with them.

But the straw that broke the camels back, in which is the reason for this blog is. This morning as I was blog hopping. I checked out their family blog.  My 2^nd SIL is really the ONLY one who ever posts stuff on there. Anyways she posts this:

Mia was baptized tonight! It was kind of a family affair... Mom made her baptism dress, and some awesome treats (that were the first to go by the way - go figure!), I got to speak on baptism, and Morgan sang. She had family, friends, and members from two wards who came out to support her! It was awesome... :D   

  To some of you, that might not seem like a big deal But in their family where only my SIL and the mom of “MIA” are members. WHY? Why did you not let us know?  It is sad that a baptism is NOT important enough to have FAMILY there. OH wait FAMILY was there…but WE were not… are we NOT considered FAMILY?  Apparently not.  That is definitely the last straw for me.  I sure hope when my Marine gets home he can see it too. Oh but then they will play the “we are so proud of our Marine son/brother who just came back from war” Ya right! 

I could go on and on about this.  I feel a little better getting it off my chest. Thanks for those of you that listened.

Well at least....

We have papa and gramma!

I tell you what... In-laws SUCK! Well at least mine do.  Thing is my Marine and I have been together for going on 19 years. Ya you read that right, 19 years, come November.  We have been married for 13 years+ and have 4 beautiful girls together... plus I have a stepdaughter that was 9 months old when my marine and I started dating.  I used to have a good relationship with the in-laws but it has gone to pot within the last few years.  What it comes down to is.... THEY JUST DON'T CARE!

See my Marine has deployed 2 times within the last 2 years. The first time he left I had my stepdaughter living with us.... she is really close to the in-laws. (she is a point of LOTS of contention between us that is FOR SURE) I made ever effort to have the in-laws a part of the girls lives while my Marine was gone.  This included countless trips to Bakersfield to visit them.  Them , never once coming to see us!  Instead I traveled 5 hours being preggo and 4 girls, then having a new baby - making it 5 girls.  I finally got fed up and stopped going to see them.  They make NO effort to call my girls on their birthdays.... and yet they have ALWAYS called and sent cards on the step daughter's birthday.  They have spoiled the crap out of her and MY GIRLS get zippo from them.  It really irritates me. Not only that but they have all said some pretty rotten things about me, as a stepmom.  Yet NONE of them want to be in MY shoes and step up to the plate and do MY job!  They have NO clue what it took for me to do it ALL.... ALONE with NO help or support from them.......

LUCKILY, I had my family.  My mom (gramma) my dad (papa) and my brother (David) especially have always been here and stepped up to help and support me and the girls.  They have made the 3 hours trip to come visit on a number of occasions.  They have loved my girls and helped me out in so many ways.  I am soo glad at least I can count on my family.  Sad thing is, my Marine knows his family doesn't give a crap!  He knows and is grateful for my family and all they've done to help.  

I just have to remind myself that THEY ARE THE ONES MISSING OUT!

The whole reason for this post is.....  I have been in Simi Valley, visiting with my parents and brother since school got out pretty much.  I actually have 2 sister in laws, plus a brother in law that live here in Simi Valley too.  And yet I have never gone to visit them... they have not contacted me at all since my Marine deployed this time.  Anyways, I have said on a number of occasions, its funny Ive been here for so long and have yet to run into any of my inlaws.... well I can't say that anymore. I pulled into a parking space the other day and low and behold... one of my sister in laws was parked right in front of me, facing my car.  She looked directly at me and then looked away.  She never got out to say hi or anything.  I haven't even seen here in I believe 5 years.  She hasnt ever seen my "baby", who will be 2 in Nov.

Man, I guess I am pretty irritated by this whole thing.  Sorry for the long post.... This is why I can't stand my inlaws!!!!