We Wanna know.... Link up

I am linking up with Queso and mamarazzi for this weeks We Wanna Know

{1} Who would you call if you had to get bailed out of jail?

That is a hard one….. I think it would be my husband.  He would give me grief for sure for ending up there but would be the most forgiving.

{2} If you were a superhero what would your hero name be?

Wonder Mom….. the mom who NEVER stops going.

{3} What do you think is one of your best qualities?

I think it would have to be my ability to find a deal and save our family  THOUSANDS of $$$$ every year!

{4} What song would you pick to be your own personal theme song?

Proud to be an American.  It truly is the theme song of my life.

{5} What celebrity do you think is most over rated

Can I say ALL of them?  9sure I can cuz it’s MY blog!!!)  I think that celebrities are WAY overrated.  There are many more important people who have sacrificed their lives and given of themselves who should be given the celebrity treatment.

After 10 LONG weeks

After 10 LONG weeks of waiting for an answer to our ever daunting question…. When is our house going to close?  We got our answer today. 

NO HOUSE FOR US. 

Well at least NOT with a VA loan.  Although Bank of America has strung us along for the past 10 weeks just telling us we needed this paper or that bank statement or LES or  another credit report or OH take your name of this credit card or close this account etc etc etc. All along thinking we HAD the house. That is WOULD be ours in just a matter of time. Our hopes and dreams were SMASHED today when we were informed that the VA had denied us for a loan because of a “few late payments within the last 2 years” (this is what I was told today by my hubby) Thing is EVERYTHING is in MY name…. except for HIS truck, My truck. HIS motorcycle, and HIS 1 credit card. Let me break it down… His truck will be PAID OFF as of Sept 17^th of this year (that is 2 more payments and we are DONE!) My truck has been paid on for almost 2 years and has NEVER been late! And His credit card is through our bank and has NEVER been late either.  I  would LOVE to know where they are coming up with “late payments” or are they just coming up with another excuse???  I am so tired of all the excuses. Problem is  if it REALLY WAS late payments within the last 2 years, that would have been on his credit report the 1^st time and they knew about it 2 months ago. And there would have been NO REASON to string us along and get our hopes up.

Thing is my hubby Is now REALLY mad!  Not sure if it is all MY fault (since I am the sole taking care of getting the bills paid for….. well our WHOLE marriage.) or if he is realizing that HE is also responsible for the financial CRAP we have gone through in the past 14 years of marriage.  All that CRAP that I have somehow or another figured out how to pay for and pay off and fix on the measley military 1 income salary that he makes.  It will probably be a few days before I talk to my hubby again.  He needs TIME to blow off steam and get his head in the right spot before we will talk again.

I so want to call and chew out EVERY SINGLE ONE involved in our loan process.  It just isn’t FAIR!  Ya I said it. It just isn’t FAIR!  There are so many unanswered questions and Red flags throughout this whole process.  We SHOULD’VE changed the bank we were going through Long ago!  Or maybe it’s just the government is having to be so damn picky about VA loans because they have NO MONEY themselves and they can’t dole out anything they DON’T have!  Who knows.  All I do know is we are still HOMELESS after 10 weeks and we are no closer to being together as a family as we were 3 months ago.

Is there an EASY answer?  I sure hope there would be. But sadly there is not.  We have some choices about where we go from here. I just hope that before long it get figured out.

1 highlight of my day… after coming home from running errands with my girls. TRYING to get my mind of this CRAPOLA, my daddy came home with 2 balloons and a Gorgeous Rose for me.  To let me know that my parents love me and hoping for the best for our family. My sweet parents always know how to cheer a girl up!

He said WHAT?

Ok, so my mom runs a daycare… and she watches mostly boys. I must say I am SOOO glad I have girls!  So everyday the Kids have rest time after lunch.  So during “rest time” on Thursday. This 5 year old says to my 7 year old “ I want to have SEX with you and Mark” , the 5 yr olds brother. 

WHAT?  My 7 year old then comes in to the kitchen where I was cleaning up from lunch and my mom was feeding a baby, to tell us this.  I was FURIOUS! I now have to explain to my 7 year old what SEX is.  I am NOT prepared for this. What is this world coming to. I so wish I could shelter my girls from this world.  It is becoming so scary and kids are learning things WAY TOO YOUNG!

So after hearing this, my mom calls this little boy in and talked to him. She asked him why he said that and what that even means. Well let’s just say he knows it involves touching girls chests. He also said he wanted to touch my daughter.  There was no yelling, no spanking, no timeout, no nothing!  Just a nice “chat”.  Me as the parent of the child that got asked the question, wants to ring the kids neck! I want to chew the parents of this kid out. But my mom said she would talk to the mom… that STILL hasn’t happened. 

The problem is now I don’t even want my kids to be around him or even the rest of the daycare kids.  They have been blaming my girls for just about anything and everything that happens around here.  My girls, because they are older, have thought of fun games for them to play, skits to do, concerts to perform among other things.  These kids are not going to know what to do when we leave for Michigan. But then again my brother won’t know what to do either, since I have been doing HIS job for the past 3 months!  I love my mom to pieces but not quite sure that she handled this situation right.

Any thoughts?

Happy 4th of JuLy

Happy Birthday AMERICA....

Happy 4th of July to all you "followers" out there :)

This 4th of July was awesome... except 1 LITTLE thing.... my marine was missing from the picture.  He is still in Michigan (all by himself)  I was soooo hoping that this would be the 1st 4th of July we would have as a family in YEARS, and that it would be in Michigan.  But NOPE! That wasn't in the plans I guess.  So instead, I texted my marine a Happy 4th of July. I miss you.

Our 4th of July consisted of some cleaning, some shopping, and some chowing down!  It is a tradition that we stake out a place on the back lawn of the church out here to watch the fireworks.  It is so fun to catch up with good friends and gorge on yummy food. Of course we ALWAYS bring way too much food.  

This year was the 1st year that my baby girl (Delaney) enjoyed the fireworks.  She sat on my lap for most of it saying.... MORE COLORS. HI COLORS. OH MY FAVORITE COLORS.  Then should would clap and start all over again.  My sweet daughter Sydney was laying next to me on the blanket and just cried through the whole thing.  She is such a tender spirit.  She loves this country just like her momma does.  Kelsee was ohhhhhhh awhhhhh the whole time. and as for my 13 year old.... well I think that is all I need to say.  She covered her ears & I think her face the whole time. (I sure hope she grows out of this stage SOON!)

The fireworks were amazing!  The BEST show that Simi Valley has EVER done, by far!  It gave me goosebumps.  It sure makes me PROUD TO BE AN AMERICAN and to be able to live in this FREE country and to worship as I please. I am so grateful for the men and women WILLING to risk and give their lives for that freedom.  I am lucky to be married to one of those WILLING to do so.  I love my marine and I LOVE the U.S. A.

 

Where do I begin????

I am shocked you all (-1) are still here..... I have been such a HUGE flake for the last 2+ months.... I have thought on MANY occasions, huh, I should really post something on the blog.  Then that thought goes away as I get ANOTHER phone call from my husband OR the girls start to argue.

Let me bring you up to speed a little on the happenings of the last 2 months.

Well I left 29 Palms with the 4 girls on the 18th of April.  Saying goodbye to my husband for a little while.  He stayed behind in 29 to turn over the house and to get his orders.  He headed to Battle Creek, MI (our NEW duty station).  He got there on April 24th and has been there ever since.  He started looking for a house for our family just 2 days after getting to MI.  He put an offer in on 1 that day and it was ACCEPTED!  Shock of the CENTURY!  Problem was from that day on it has been nothing but PROBLEMS with the bank or the VA.  It is a total JOKE!  I am not kidding.  We were preapproved, we are using the VA loan.... it SHOULDN'T be THAT hard, but oh it IS! There is some NEW info they want it seems DAILY from us.  They are checking bank records, looking at any discrepencies  we may have had back like 10 years (SERIOUSLY? You may be asking..... I WOULDN'T lie about that)

So as my marine has been in MI.... The girls and I have been with my parents and brother in Simi Valley.  We have made 2, yes count them 2 trips to Utah. a trip back through 29 to visit friends and lots of hanging out at Gramma's and Papa's house.  We had only "planned" on being here for about a month.... well here we are going on 2 1/2 months and still NOTHING!  Our house was supposed to close on the 15th of June.  Now we are being told it's gonna be after the 4th of July.  I miss my husband.  I miss having my OWN place.  I miss having my girls  in their OWN rooms and NOT having to share with them!  Sharing a room with a 2 1/2 year old and an (almost) 8 year old is ROUGH! I must say.  

Anyways, besides the crappy house news, we have begun to POTTY TRAIN.  (NO! Not me, my 2 1/2 year old silly!)  I was KINDA hoping she wouldn't be ready til we got to Michigan, but she has figured otherwise.  She is ready NOW!  We have not been as successful with her as with my other girls.  I caved and bought her pullups, hoping that would help her.  NOPE!  They are just like diapers.  and on top of it all my Delaney is a little peanut and now with no more diapers here clothes are fitting so well.  Her pants want to fall right off with nothing to hold them up.

I am in FULL BLOWN teenage YUCK as I like to refer to it.  My oldest daughter has hit the I am NOT fun to be around all the time stage.  She NEVER wants to go anywhere or do ANYTHING that I ask her!  It is driving me nuts.  This is where a dad would be nice to have around.  She sooooo needs a good talkin' to from him!

My other 2 girls, Sydney and Kelsee have also had their ups and downs.  I know a lot has to do with being apart from dad and the living conditions.... not that they are bad by any means.  just not the room we are all used to having.

well I think that is the best update I can give for now.  I don't wanna be a total downer, but life hasnt been working out too well for us lately.  so this is as good as it's gonna be for now.

I sure hope ya'll will forgive me and continue to follow my blog. Thanks!

Getting to know YOU!

I haven't played along in a while and let's face it.... I NEED a break from packing and cleaning!  So here it goes

1. Do you watch/read the news?

Watching the news is how I start my mornings... I am a FOX News Addict :)

 

2. How would you describe your look?

very casual.  My favorite is jeans and tshirts

3. Did you play sports in high school or college?

I TRIED playing Volleyball, but during tryouts fell and dislocated BOTH my knees!

4. Would you rather give up lipstick/gloss or high heels?

Both!  I hardly wear heels and RARELY wear lipstick.... my marine WON'T kiss me if I wear it!

5. What is your favorite show to watch on tv?

Biggest Loser (aka the Fat People show).

6. Would you rather bake or cook?

I LOVE baking but don't mind cooking either.  But Nothing too extravagant

7. Shorts or skirts?

if I have to choose between the 2- skirts... but if Capri's were an option that would be my choice!

8. What is your favorite scary movie?

I don't watch em!  They freak me out!!!

It's been almost a week since.....

I last blogged........ MAN! time goes by quick!

I have been avoiding blogging, well, not really.... I haven't had much TIME lately.  Last monday my marine FINALLY got his orders to Michigan.  You ask WHEN DO YOU HAVE TO REPORT??? Oh May 1st of course.  Yes that doesn't leave much time.  So we have been running around with our heads cut off (OK NOT literally)  The housing office to give our notice (and yes we did NOT give them 30 days... oh well, we didn't get 30 days either)  The hospital to request all the medical records. (since we are going to and I & I duty we will be at a CIVILIAN hospital!) and then TMO to set up our move.  HECK NO we aren't doing it ourselves!!!

I would LOVE to run and hide and bury my head in my pillow.  I am SOOO Overwhelmed with EVERYTHING that has to happen within the next week that I wanna SCREAM! 

NOT to mention our LESS than competent Leadership in Washington who need to get their tails outta their rear ends!  This budget thing and NO PAY for the military is making me LITERALLY sick to my stomach!  I haven't eaten much in the last few days. 

Anyways, I have been sorting through our CRAP stuff and selling what I can on 29palmsyardsales.com (that sight is AWESOME!  Just like craigslist)  But that hasn't sold enough.... SOOO, now I am having a yard sale tomorrow.  Just getting ready for that is more than I can handle.  My body is KILLING me!  I have had a migraine since yesterday and it doesn't want to go away!  I haven't sat down much today.... that is why I am FINALLY blogging~  I needed a BREAK for being on the move CONSTANTLY!

I am sure this is probably not making any sense.  I don't know when I will have a chance to post again.  LOTS is happening in the next week.  We will see where we go from here! All I know is in a week I will be on the road to my parents house with ALL the girls and my marine will be on the road to Michigan to find us a house! (I told him I won't move there until we have a HOME to live in)